Last night, around ten, Orion told me he was ready to go to bed. He is only three years old. About an hour later, Ivy came crawling up the stairs and said, “I love going to bed!” She brushed her teeth, and snuggled in next to us and asked me to tickle her back.
All of my children love bedtime. I know it is because they were never forced or coerced to go to bed before they were tired and ready to. Living the Radical Unschooling life, we choose to respect our children’s natural sleep cycle. I believe this is the healthiest way for children to live, without a parent-imposed bedtime.
When others hear that Unschoolers have “no bedtime”, it isn’t exactly true. Unschoolers do have bedtimes, but only when they say they are ready to sleep. It is a very organic, easy, joyful process for my children, and something they have never had any issues with. I know that most sleep issues in children today are because of parents imposing their needs before the needs of their children. Unschooling not only allows children the freedom to choose their own bedtime, but is releases them from the cultural notions that bedtime is a difficult process for parents and children.
With Radical Unschooling there are no power struggles.Our children have developed a very healthy, balanced, natural attitude about bedtime and sleep. So much of what you hear today about the difficulties with parenting young children surrounds bedtimes. Living a life in partnership with our children, we are changing the way that parents have historically viewed bedtimes and bringing peace and connection to the process. My children love going to bed, just as I do, and we have the Radical Unschooling philosophy to thank for that!
~Peace & Love, Dayna