Devin is No Longer an Unschooler!!

Well, we did it, despite what everyone told us would happen if we didn’t listen to their, “advice.” We raised one human to adulthood and he is thriving and happy, despite the many warnings by those who didn’t think it was possible to raise a child with partnership, respect and freedom.

Devin never slept in a crib, cried-it-out, or was separated from me, when he didn’t want to be. He was never punished, sent to institutionalized school or made to do things he didn’t want to do. He was never grounded or shamed. He never had anything taken away from him to, “teach him a lesson.” He was never forced to do schoolwork of any kind, or learn anything that he didn’t want to learn. He was never graded, compared, tested, measured or had his mind poked and prodded, against his will. His fears were always respected and his passions were always ignited.

To those who have supported us on this incredible ride of raising Devin, thank you! For those of you who didn’t believe it was possible and criticized and judged us, thank you. It was all of you who motivated us to continue trusting, supporting, ignoring the ignorance and embracing the love.

Oh, and to the media outlets who have met Devin, judged us, laughed at us, sensationalized our lives and twisted reality to serve your audience and agenda, I also say, thank you. I feel compelled to share a friendly, in your face, F.U., because of Devin’s kind and loving choice and willingness to be in the spotlight, since he was six years old, graciously welcoming you into our home and educating you all about his unique life.

With that said, and after all Devin has done to help shift the world towards more freedom and peace for children, everywhere…

F*ck you, Dr. Phil
F*ck you, Juju Chang
F*ck you, Forrest Sawyer
F*ck you, Bethenny Frankel
F*ck you, Nightline
F*ck you, Fox News
F*ck you, Today Show
F*ck you, CNN
F*ck you, 60 Minutes
F*ck you, OWN Network
F*ck you, Wife Swap
and a special, “Thank you,” to Jeff Probst, for being the only voice of support and respect for Devin, in all of our media coverage in the last 12 years.

Happy 18th Birthday, to my dear son, Devin. Thank you for being a voice and face to educate the world about what is possible without forcing a child to obey authority, without behavior modification, punishing, controlling, without SCHOOL and without living the authoritarian paradigm!

Congrats for staying alive, despite living the peace, love and FREEDOM that you have always deserved. THANK YOU for trusting and believing in our lives and continuing to do so. I love you, son and I am so proud of the man you have become!

Peace & Love, Mom


  1. Melissa Jensen says:

    Praises to you and your unwavering courage to stand in what is Right! You are one of my great heros!

  2. Well done. Bravely done. Competently done. Perhaps others have followed this path, you’ve done it in the glaring light the criticism of others. You have set a standard for all of humanity. You are a fearless pioneer and without doubt a model for all who come after you. Your example is a bright light illuminating the path to freedom.

    With the utmost respect,


    • Hi Dave! Your words mean a lot to me. I hope to see you in Vancouver this July, during my visit for speaking at the Capitalism and Morality event.
      There are many doing amazing things in this world and if I can even help shift a tiny bit of awareness into the lives of others, I am grateful.

      Peace & Love, Dayna

      • Hi Dayna,

        I’m looking forward to another terrific event in Vancouver and seeing you on the schedule brought a big smile to my face. If you ask me again what my passion is I promise not to say “fishing.” My passion since high school (ugh), has been to understand how our human civilization works and why it is so screwed up everywhere and always. I now get it. We are still operating under a tribal system controlled by two really bad ideas; religion and politics both of which were developed to control populations. There are many tribes (read nations) around the globe, each with one chief. Every chief has one primary objective, to increase his/her power and influence on a global scale leading to hegemony. It is clear that if this paradigm doesn’t change it is unlikely humanity will survive. The posturing going on even now is signaling that the end game is approaching. So the work you and I and others are doing is the only bastion against species self-destruction. I’m proud to be a part of it and obviously so are you.

        See you soon,


  3. Love.

  4. Jen Niles says:

    Congratulations! I am very impressed and I can totally identify with your feelings right about now! You’ve always been an inspiration even if I didn’t agree with every single thing you said. Thanks for being a beacon!

  5. Steven Lytle says:

    I doubt you’ll disagree with me, but I think Devin has been an adult for years, by any rational definition of the term, rather than accepting the arbitrary dividing line (18 years old) of those around him. BTW, was there any rite of passage for him?
    Congrats to Devin and his family.

    • Hi Steve,
      Yes.. I totally agree. Devin does too. He didn’t think it was a big deal at all, turning 18. His exact words were, “It’s just a culturally, made-up thing, that turning 18 means anything. I feel the exact same as I did for years.”
      As far as a “rite of passage,” I am not sure. He may be able to help more with that answer.
      Thanks for commenting and I appreciate the congrats.
      Peace & Love, Dayna

  6. Congratulations!!

  7. Yes! I sure do love a “F*U*” list!

  8. Peggie Greenough says:

    Happy Birthday to Devin and a giant thank you for sharing your lives and experiences with us, Martin family <3

  9. I can’t imagine what you heard and dealt with. It totally pisses me of for that if we choose to live a happy life. Not with the fb life of everything on the outside looking like a white picket fence neighborhood. And living in our truth. And the fact that society can’t handle what they choose not even to TRY to for a minute understand.
    I live on a boat, with my husband 18 years older than me. We homeschool as well. And we’ll I have heard it all. The best was a close friend not inviting my daughter her best friend because we homeschool. And my daughter wouldn’t know her daughters friends. And in the end of our conversation was. Well I just don’t understand you. Ahh. Thank you. And I don’t understand why it’s ok to scream and over book your child.
    The media, those who judge. People in glass houses. Stop throwing boulders!

    It’s simple. This simple we choose to be together. All of us that choose to have our children home all day with us every day til they are an adult. We choose this for many reasons. And one of the best ones because we Love one another so deeply. These are our children. And we will laugh and cry and learn together and enjoy our lives together. It doesn’t get any more real and beautiful than stepping in a day in our shoes.

    The press can’t handle it. They are the biggest leaders of the bully bullshit. Too bad for them. And so amazing we all have our amazing lives. Be proud stand tall. Because we have something many only dreamed of.

  10. I love your F.U. list. 😀

  11. Sasha Kosec says:

    Dayna, what a nice journey for all of you. Congratulations for your bravery to go public through the media and for your perseverance. Life is supposed to be adventurous if we recognize our passions and have courage to follow them. Your adventure is really a great one. I believe it will serve generations to come.

    I am very interested in your message not just for enhancing myself and my own family, but for the way it can impact our society. It parallels my own goals.

    It would be great to keep in touch and exchange experiences.
    All the best to you and your wonderful family.

  12. Amy Moxley says:

    What does adulthood mean? As a homeschooling mom of 6 kids for 20+ years, my question is when does one truly become an independent adult?

  13. How will he support himself? How will he get a job?

  14. While I am so happy your son is doing well, I most love the F*ck you’s to those who think they know best what is right for every child. Well done Mama and son. May life be full for you both!

  15. ❤️ it! Same here for me and my son 16, and daughter, 20. We’re assisting them in aligning with their soul’s purpose of bringing light to this world just by being themselves. They WILL save this planet! Well done, mama bear! 🙂 Much love to you and Devin! ❤️

  16. I think this is amazing. It is very nice to read these words, inspiring!

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