Freedom does not mean uninvolvement in a child’s life. That is neglect. Freedom is choices, respect and honoring each person’s individual path with connected support, love and nurturing. This is at the heart of Radical Unschooling!
Often times when I am working with parents who are learning about Unschooling, they share what isn’t working for them from their parenting “tool box”. They share that punishments aren’t working and comment on how damaging they are for the parent/child relationship.
When a parent knows what they do not want to do, but has no idea what to do it the place of punishments, they sometimes feel like Unschooling is not doing anything at all. Nothing could be further from the truth! Radical Unschooling is a very hands-on approach and it is not but un-parenting! Unschooling is certainly not for the lazy parent! Rules and punishments are very easy in comparison to how we choose to live our lives in partnership with our children through Radical Unschooling!
Shifting from control to connection takes patience, love and a willingness to rethink everything you thought you knew. It takes courage to see that there is another way – a better way to raise children! Unschooling is the greatest gift that a parent could ever give a child and I am so grateful to be walking this amazing path, hand in hand with my children!